Why is the women’s choice to have babies limited by time and age? Why is it acceptable for men to have babies later? I know! Unfair right?
I’m in my 30’s and I admit that I’m not yet ready to have babies. Don’t take me wrong, I love kids but the thought of having one now is giving me anxieties. No, it’s not because of responsibilities. I’m not running away from responsibilities. I pay my bills and pay my student loan back. What I want at the moment is to get a full time job and some solid savings. I can’t see nothing wrong with living your dreams first and postponing having kids.
I felt sad that hubby thinks otherwise. I understand his sentiments. I’m in my 30’s and the chance for conceiving a child is lower compared to my earlier years. However, I’m not yet ready mentally. As I’ve said earlier, I need to do some things first. I do have a goal that I would start having kids by the age of 35. My hubby upon hearing this gave me a lecture about my reproductive system. He said that I’m getting old. But I don’t feel like I’m getting old! I told him that my cousin and some friends got kids at 35 and it went well. They didn’t have complications and didn’t have problems with the pregnancy. I get it. He wants kids and he wants to secure his chance of having kids. So I mentioned that adoption is a good alternative too. But I got another lecture as a response. Oh well, I’d take it as a no then!
My hubby and I are not yet done with this topic about babies. I hope we’ll come up to an agreement anytime soon.